Today, I have finished reading the book “Anger” by Thich Nhat Hanh. It manages to touch me at the most fundamental level, where I just seem to know that what Thich Nhat Hanh is trying to say in the book is true. I know that my seed of anger has been allowed to manifest on many occasions without the mindfulness energy to embrace and take care of it. I will do my best to practice the teachings inside the book, honey.

I am going to type the peace treaty from the book word by word here my dear, because i find the words meaningful, and also because I want to be mindful of each and every word as I type them.

Peace Treaty

In order that we may live long and happily together, in order that we may continually develop and deepen our love and understanding, we, the undersigned, vow to observe and practice the following:

I, the one who is angry, agree to:

1. Refrain from saying or doing anything that might cause further damage or escalate the anger.

2. Not suppress my anger.

3. Practice mindful breathing and go back to myself to take care of my anger.

4. Calmly, within 24hrs, tell the one who has made me angry about my anger and suffering, either verbally or by delivering a peace note.

5. Ask for an appointment later in the week, like Firday evening, either verbally, or by note, to discuss this matter more thoroughly.

6. Not say: “I am not angry, it’s okay, I am not suffering. There is nothing to be angry about.”

7. Look deeply into my daily life, while sitting, walking, lying down, working, and driving in order to see:

The ways that I myself, have been unskillful at times. How I have hurt the other person because of my own habit energy. How the strong seed of anger in me is the primary cause of my anger. How the other person is only the secondary cause. How the other person is only seeking relief from his or her suffering. That as long as the other person suffers, I cannot be truly happy.

8. Apologize immediately, without waiting for the Friday appointment, as soon as I recognise my unskillfulness and lack of mindfulness.

9. Postpone the friday meeting if I do not feel calm enough to meet with the other person.

I, the one who has made the other angry, agree to:

1. Respect the other person’s feelings, not ridicule him/her and allow enough time for him/her to calm down.

2. Not press for an immediate discussion.

3. Confirm the other person’s request for a meeting, either verbally or by note, and assure him or her that I will be there.

4. If I can apologise, do so right away and not wait until friday evening.

5. Practice mindful breathing and deep looking to see how:

I have seeds of anger and unkindness as well as the habit energy, which make the other person unhappy. I have mistakenly thought that making the other person suffer would relieve my own suffering. By making him/her suffer, I make myself suffer.

6. Apologize as soon as I realise my unskillfulness and lack of mindfulness, without making any attempt to justify myself and without waiting for the friday meeting.

Maung Zaw Win Min & Ge Hailin

5/19/2014

本来是决定去晨跑，然后吃早餐，Our plan changed this morning due to sudden thunderstorm ..
躺在暖暖的被窝里，听着雨水打在窗外，淅沥，淅沥，室内对比很安静，越发感觉平静，好一个慵懒的星期六早上:)
等一下和darling有个约会，期待中:) 古人曰：一日三审吾生，而我们定下了星期六为我们每星期一review的日子，一起improve和学习 😘 see my darling soon…

It was 5/8 (thur). Honey and me went to honey’s home to have dinner. After that, i was sitting down in front of tv and switching on my laptop, when honey asked me to go inside her room to work. Ge papa jumped out in my defence and stated that there should be rest time after dinner. But honey stood her ground. I was sandwiched.

I am sure you can guess which side i chose. Of course i chose to go into the room and work. You might call me 欺善怕恶，but if you know honey, you will understand my choice.

Inside the room, however, we decided to go watch movie. The amazing spiderman 2 has been screening in cinemas for 1 week now. We booked the tickets online for 9pm show at jcube.

After watching the show,
1) I feel that we should address people by their name, because it might just mean a lot to them.
2) I also feel that if you have spent your lifetime researching on a cure that both your son and you can use, you should do a proper passdown on what will not work and what might be dangerous to try. You shouldn’t just pass your son a small cube that only displays info if dropped onto your table. Who would have known?! Knowledge management is neglected everywhere.
3) Lastly, I feel that what is useful can be harmful as well. Just look at electric man.

Should have watched it in 3D! The effects would have been wonderful in 3D.

As for my honey’s key takeaways, you got to ask her. 😚

Tonight, we asked Chun Chun to koin us for dinner. We went to Pepper Lunch at JEM. 😊

Today (5/4 Sunday), after honey has attended Caiyun and Ding Yong wedding, we go for a run at botanical garden. 😊

Today is 3rd May 2014, 2 years since honey and I started this love journey. 🙂

On 5/2, honey and I worked in her office till late, after having dinner at NTU canteen. We had 牛肉拉面 and 卤猪脚. They were both yummy! Maybe because I am with honey. After dinner, honey had pear juice while I chose papaya banana juice.

On 5/3, we went to turf city’s pasarbella for the seafood paella and turkish sausage.. 👍

The bracelet and jigsaw puzzles are what I got for honey. Every day, every moment, we are creating a piece of the jigsaw, which will all then combine to form the happy blessed love life of 2 of us. The bracelet is simply to tell honey that my love for her is forever. Thank you honey for the amazing 2 years! Let’s continue to work on creating more special memories everyday.

And this is honey’s present for me. Yes, honey, all my memories will be of you and you alone. ❤️

Today is 4/13. I know it is not, and it is in fact 4/22. It is just that I am going to recount the happy shared memories honey and I had on 4/13. I will let the pictures speak for themselves. 🙂

Today is 4/12. Went back to office to write the weekly report before meeting honey for lunch. We had lunch at the market opposite honey’s home, where I had sliced fish bee hoon and honey had lor mee. After lunch, we made our way to our alma mater, NJC for its Funtasia event. Honey’s good friend, Fiona, is teaching there, so we are supporting her by getting the ticket from her, while we have fun ourselves at the same time. 🙂

We left Funtasia with 3 balloons and lots of fun. Oh yah, the 3 balloons. We were quite serious about winning some prizes home. So, we took a piece of the sticker form, and strived to win as many stickers as possible. At the station above, where we were supposed to throw ping-pong balls into these small circles, we won 14 stickers at one go. We won 2 more at a separate station, where we had to roll a ball up and down card-boards before ending up in the indicated card-board box. Oh, we didn’t manage to get any ball into the box. The station-master just took pity on us and gave us 2 stickers. Haha.. 🙂 Yah, so we were quite smug with our 16 stickers and wanted to exchange for some prizes. At the prize exchange booth, though, they have run out of prizes. So, we asked for the 3 balloons instead with the intent of giving them to Amber.

Then, we went to the botanical garden for a run. And some photos, of course. 😛

After the run, we met up with PeiPei, Mama, GoGo, Amber and MaThandarOo at IMM 三盅俩件 for a simple but warm dinner. Ooh.. while we were trying to get to IMM, as the queue of cars going into IMM car-park was too long, we decided to go to the HDB multi-storey car-park that we had parked previously. But, honey mistook another multi-storey car-park to be that same one and we had a good laugh about it. Huhu..

After dinner, we went to Daiso, trying to look for long balloons, that we can twist into doggies and tiara for Amber. We couldn’t find them there though. We found them another day at another place. If you want to know where, stay tuned.

Today is 4/11! Hehe.. I know today is 4/20, but we have been busy enjoying ourselves that we haven’t really found time to upload these posts till now. But I think that it is still important that we have this space to store our cherished precious moments, so that we can look back at these shared memories when we are old.

Yah, back to the birthday of my sweet honey. I took the day off so that we can spend the whole day together. Honey took leave as well. 🙂 We didn’t arrange beforehand though. 心有灵犀 at its highest level! If that doesn’t impress you, wait till you hear more of our ‘copy-cat’ moments.

In the morning, we met up at around 9:30am and headed to the rider’s cafe for brunch. That’s where I gave honey her birthday present. Along the car-ride there, she has been reading the birthday card that I wrote her. That reminds me! She guessed the present I bought for her! Hmph!

My champion always!

After the satisfying meal, we sneaked into the stable, where the horses are kept. Honey and me had a discussion on why a horizontal bar is sufficient to keep the horses in their cubicles. Honey had a theory that horses can’t prone down or lie down. The next moment, one magnificently black horse showed us how he can lie down, roll around and get up. 🙂 We were glad that horses have survived long enough for us to still be able to see them. So, we decided to go to Great World City to catch “Noah”. Honey felt that there was more than enough space to accept more than 2 animals per species. For me, I felt that the logic of having to kill his grand-daughters doesn’t really make sense since they would have nobody to breed with them anyway. If he is afraid of in-breeding, grand-sons could have given birth to future descendants with his daughter-in-law  anyway. I am afraid I am being a 木头 again, so I shall stop here.

Then, we proceeded to Muhamed Sultan road <http://www.thepatissier.com> to collect honey’s birthday cake, which I have reserved beforehand.

Honey also treated me to this cake called ‘Jade Mirror’, which was extremely yummy!

Then, we went to shop for groceries at the Yuan Ching Sheng Siong to prepare for the dinner at honey’s home. The dinner preparation was fun! We were efficient too. Under the guidance of Big Chef Ge, the table of dishes was born.

After dinner, we gave the food some time to travel down the intestines before we send the cake down. Before we do that, honey makes her super long list of wishes. Nobody was complaining, of course. To add on to her wishes, I wish honey will be healthy and happy always! ❤

Today is 4/10 (It is 10th of April, and not 4th of October. I write dates this way because of working in a US company.) and it is honey’s birthday eve! Honey has EEEAA quarterly meeting though. So, while honey goes to the quarterly meeting, I went home for dinner.

Then, at about 9pm, knowing that honey is about to be done with the meeting, I made my way to Rochester Park Starbucks.

There, honey and the rest of the EEEAA folks were at 2nd level. Once they saw me, they excitedly ask me to reserve 12/26 to 12/29 for Penang trip, which is arranged to coincide with Sim’s wedding. 🙂 Something to look forward to! It will be great fun! While honey they all might still have some formal business to discuss, I can sit back, relax and enjoy all the nice Penang food! Of course, I will share with honey.. :p

Honey and I walked back to Star Vista, where I have parked my car. There, we come across this cool-looking western sea-food grill restaurant, which we promised each other to come and try one of these days. In the picture above, we were trying to capture the restaurant in the background. If I don’t mention it, I am sure everyone will be too mesmerised by the beauty of honey to notice it.

We went back to honey’s home, where we waited till midnight struck and I wished honey a happy sweet birthday. “Honey, my wish is that on your 88th birthday, I can do the same and bring you all the joy and blessings in this world..”